Leadership is so much more than having a title or a position of authority. It is about inspiring and motivating those around you to be better or different every day. And there is no dark art or mystery involved, there are skills which can be learned and improved with practice.
These are my top three; skills which are essential for becoming a great leader.
1. Emotional intelligence:
We have to start here. Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand and manage our own emotions and those of others. Developing your emotional intelligence allows you to build trust, develop rapport, and build relationships. On the flip side, being able to recognise our emotions and why we are experiencing them, gives us a better ability to cope with stress, frustration, and to deal with conflict. If you are familiar with Transactional Analysis, it keeps us in our Adult Ego state - where objectivity and accountability reign.
2. Communication:
Being able to communicate well is key to any successful relationship, and leadership is no exception. But it's such a big word and can often get confused with the medium we use rather than the skills we have to deliver it. Good communication is clear, simple and easily understood by everyone who hears, sees or reads it. Once received, knowing how to listen to the response with all your attention is paramount and then being skilled at giving, and open to receiving, feedback comes into play.
3. Adaptability & Collaboration:
Okay, so I've squeezed two skills into one, but I don't believe you can be adaptable without collaboration and vice versa. Understanding change is inevitable, means we need to be flexible and adaptable to cope with it. Having a growth mindset, allows us to embrace change and see it as an opportunity for learning and growth, rather than a threat or a challenge. And if we can embrace it, we can help others adapt to change by providing guidance, support, and resources.
But, we aren't superhuman, despite what history and legacy tells us, and we can't, and shouldn't, do everything on our own. We need help, support and input from others. This may be from our teams, our peers, our bosses or maybe from networking groups, mentors, coaches - there are many places to find the support you need and people to collaborate with.
The list of skills is much longer than 3 for sure, but if we can hone these ones, we are in a great place to start to develop the others...it just takes time with practice, feedback and reflection.