There's a spectrum to learning with teaching at one end and coaching at the other. Teaching is when a subject matter expert tells you their knowledge to help you learn something new. Your teacher will usually have a particular area or topic they are qualified in, for example: history, law, mechanics, engineering etc...
Coaching is when you are the subject matter expert and the coach gives you the time and space for thinking, asking the occasional great question along the way. The coach is qualified to help you uncover your answers.
It is a powerful, yet often underrated, tool for personal and professional change. But there are a lot of misconceptions about what coaching involves and who it is for. These are my top five myths and their truths:
Myth #1: Coaching is telling you what to do or giving you advice.
Truth: This couldn't be further from the truth! Coaching is about asking you powerful questions to help you gain clarity, insight, and awareness. It's about listening to you deeply, and reflecting back to you what you say and how you say it. Coaching is about supporting you in finding your own answers and solutions, and giving you the accountability to take action.
Myth #2: Coaching is expensive and only for the senior team.
Truth: Anybody can access coaching. Yes, there are coaches out there who charge a hefty fee or those who will only work with senior people but there are others who are more affordable and who want to spread the gift of coaching to all. And there is a high return on your investment, because you are in control of the conversation and the outcomes and you have the choice whether to do something better or try something different. Be that finding a new job, starting a new hobby, building a relationship...the list is endless!
Myth #3: Coaching is only for people who have problems or need fixing.
Truth: Coaching is for anyone who wants to improve their performance, achieve their goals, or make positive changes in their life. Coaching is not therapy or counselling, and it doesn't focus on the past or the problems. Coaching is forward-looking and solution-oriented, and it helps you tap into your own potential and resources.
Myth #4: Coaching is a one-time event or a quick fix.
Truth: Well, it can be a one time conversation but never a quick fix. More often than not, coaching is a process and a journey which takes time and commitment. It certainly won't solve all your problems overnight. With the right coach, you form a partnership built on trust, and that relationship brings continuous learning, growth and change which can have lasting results.
Myth #5: Coaching is only for personal or professional development.
Truth: Coaching can be applied to any aspect of your life where you want to make a positive change or achieve a specific goal. Coaching can help you find your balance across different areas of your life, be that health, relationships, finances, hobbies, spirituality, fun, wellbeing etc..., it can help you clarify where you want to get to, overcome obstacles, and create an action plan.
And finally, two truths about your coaching relationship: