Being able to BE who you are in the workplace without having to put on a mask and pretend, creates a much better environment to work in, because showing up as someone else is exhausting!
In my career, I've been extremely lucky to work in places where I can be myself and not have to pretend (mostly), but there are still, despite all the research, managers and leaders who think they have to be a certain way once "manager" is added to their job title. It's so much more than a title or a position of authority, it's how you influence and inspire others to want to bring their best selves to work.
Being a good leader is simple but not easy. We have to let go of our pre-conceptions and show vulnerability, creating teams who want to work for us not ones who are led by fear of consequences. This is tricky for any human but there are some easy places to start:
A human leader has a clear and compelling vision of what they want to achieve and why. They communicate this vision to their team and help them see how their individual contributions fit into the big picture and make a difference. By giving people a sense of purpose and direction, they are more likely to do whatever is needed to make that vision happen.
A human leader listens to their teams ideas and concerns, they keep them informed of what is going on, what is expected of them and how they are doing. They encourage collaboration and foster a culture of trust and respect, creating a positive and supportive environment, where people feel valued and appreciated.
A human leader gives, and receives, feedback to help their teams, and themselves, grow. One approach does not fit all. Seeking feedback and acting on it boosts psychological safety, confidence and team performance.
A human leader recognises their team's strengths and achievements and celebrates their successes, while providing them with the necessary guidance and support to keep getting better and better.
A leader who tries to hide their "human-ness" can demotivate their team, create conflict, stifle creativity and lower morale and will probably spend all their time caught up in the recruitment process.
A human leader inspires their team to collaborate, learn from each other and enjoy what they do. So, take a deep breath and start to show up as a human, your team will appreciate it and work might just become a better place to be.