When you are really busy, what sacrifices do you make? This a really personal piece this month about my own self care and how I have sacrificed it for the sake of work and deadlines.
My health, my family and my friends have all suffered from my lack of attention over the last few months and I knew something needed to different.
I am B12 deficient, which means I need to have a booster jab every 12 weeks. If I miss my jab, I can't think straight, my patience completely disappears and I am exhausted; no matter how much sleep I have. I was four weeks late for this dose because I couldn't/wouldn't find time in my diary to book the appointment.
So I felt unwell and really grumpy. This led to my daughter getting the brunt when she asked me for some help with her college work. In the end, I'm ashamed to say, we booked some time in my diary so I could concentrate on what she needed.
And last week, my girlfriends and I had booked to go "out, out" for the first time together in 18 months. But I cancelled because I had a deadline to meet and I couldn't see light at the end of the tunnel so I worked instead; making myself more tired and grumpy!
I am fortunate enough to be in charge of my own workload so I really have no excuse for overloading myself but I know this is not the case for everyone.
So, how do we, as leaders, look after ourselves which then allows us to look after our teams?
Firstly, recognise your own changes in behaviour, demeanour, mood and/or output...I've had my B12 jab now and on reflection, the last few months have been pretty miserable. It wasn't until my scheduled meeting with my daughter I realised just how miserable I was feeling. I immediately moved things around and booked my appointment because I knew it would give me the energy to get out of my own created chaos of work and re-balance my life.
Secondly, we all know the virtual world adds in extra exhaustion...ending one meeting and immediately jumping onto the next...one after the other all day long. But you are in control of your diaries - ask "why am I being invited?" and if the reason isn't good enough, decline. If it is good enough, maybe suggest it's 45 minutes rather than an hour, to give you time (and others) to gather your thoughts.
And finally, you will have your own anxieties about what the next few months might bring, and so will your team. If you share yours, they are more likely to share theirs and then you can work through it all together, which is a much better way - looking after each other.
Self care is so important - without it, life becomes stressful, exhausting and dull. So, this afternoon, I'm switching off to watch Roger Federer play at Wimbledon.