This is a tricky question to answer...it might be yes, no or not enough. But how do we know?
Leading yourself is intrinsically linked to emotional intelligence or EQ. Daniel Goleman suggests there are four elements which make up someone's emotional intelligence:
Self-awareness and self-management are both about leading yourself. The better you know your strengths, your shortcomings, your emotional triggers; the better you are able to manage yourself.
This does, however, all take time, reflection and practice. This means you have to find time in your day or week to think about you...how have you shown up as a leader? What happened? What does that mean? What have I learnt? What's my plan for next week? How do I put my plan into practice?
A lot of questions I know and some of us will naturally reflect on an interaction, particularly if it didn't go the way we expected. But, we often miss the "so what now?" question.
It's understandable - often we don't want to admit to ourselves we might have been wrong or tell anyone else. This is okay. This is deep-set in our behaviours all the way back to when we were at school.
Not wanting to get a question wrong or make a suggestion for fear of retribution from the teacher or ridicule from our classmates.
I haven't been in school for a very long time...but I will always remember the teacher who sat me under a shelf so I hurt myself every time I stood up or put my hand up. It took me a long time to understand the impact this had had on me and my reluctance to ask questions in a meeting.
So, it's tough, looking at ourselves in the mirror but there are lots of ways to help us do this.
Feedback is often referred to as a gift, meaning you can choose to accept it, reflect and/or do something different...or not! But, you have to open a gift first to be able to make that decision.
Taking a quiet ten minutes a day for some self reflection is crucial to your success as a leader. If you are leading yourself well and role modelling the behaviours you expect to see in others, looking after and leading your team will be easier. No less complex, but easier.